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Eoin Macken and Amy-Joyce Hastings in The Callback Queen, photo by Tim McDonnell

Eoin Macken and Amy-Joyce Hastings in The Callback Queen, photo by Tim McDonnell

Valentine’s Day is about to arrive. It’s the day about love and romance. Why not get inspired to write wonderful prose or poetry? Make it an opportunity before or on that day to write something about love. Even if you’re sad, something that could make you laugh. Or something touching like a story about charity. Remember the first draft doesn’t have to be perfect. You can find inspiration from literature (classic or modern) and other stories you’ve watched, heard, or experienced. Or take a favorite, or famous, poem and take your own twist with revising it towards something new. A certain theme, a favorite couple, and/or looking over a list of your favorite actors and actresses can spark something.

This is a chance to create something for a special someone, or just for yourself. You never know, you might end up wanting to submit it towards publication later. It doesn’t have to be about love or romance, but just reminding yourself why you love writing in the first place. I think there is something special about stories that delve into love or make love an important key to the characters or the story. It can even enhance a thriller, or a medical drama.

The Night Shift - Season 1

Eoin Macken as TC Callahan and Jill Flint as Jordan Alexander in NBC’s Night Shift

Romance can be realistic. It can be tough, and/or a nice surprise. It doesn’t even have to end with a happy ending and everything resolved. Even though I personally do like having some kind of resolution. It’s really up to you. You don’t even have to take my suggestions, but hope you keep writing. Sometimes we can get in a rut, and forget to write for ourselves. Something that gives us a chance to explore what we can do. That’s why I like using prompts or creating my own deadlines to write creatively, to push myself to write even when it seems like I don’t have much time or when I’m not sure what I could write.

Most importantly don’t let your doubts stop you from writing, and sharing your work with others. Even people who may seem confident, still struggle when it comes to what they believe are their weaknesses. Writing can be a very private thing, but it’s also has be public to let your writing skills grow, which can be unnerving because you want to show your best to the world. All you can do is give it your all. I found out recently that Eoin Macken (well-known for Gwaine in BBC Merlin) wrote a book called the Kingdom of Scars (nominated ‘Best Newcomer’ for an Irish book award). As you can already tell, I’m a fan of Eoin. I haven’t read the book yet, but hopefully I can read it some time soon. What I have read is some of his posts on his personal blog, even one where he discusses about his novel. He presents his worries about sharing his writing and how much feedback really helped him towards publishing his first novel. I think this will be a great read because of what I’ve heard about the book, as well as how well he has done other projects like Merlin and The Night Shift (Season 2 starts on February 23rd). He puts all he can into his work. Plus I’m curious to see a coming-to-age story from an Irish perspective. Additionally, I think it would be a good birthday present for him to get his book on Feb. 21st.

Besides the homework I’ll have to do this weekend for grad school, I hope that I’ll get a chance to enjoy this weekend with my family and my best friend Tabitha. I’m not in a relationship, but right now and always, I want to focus on my family and friends that love me. So my hope for this weekend will be about enjoying re-watching Merlin (maybe Doctor Who too), drinking fantastic tea, a bit of enjoyable reading, listen to great music, and most of all spending time with those that I love. Hopefully some point during this weekend I can do some creative writing with a bit of romance. Maybe I might have characters that look like Eoin and Kate Hackett (actress and creator of Classic Alice), because I would enjoy seeing a project with them, and they both inspire me.

Just look at them… A great creative match.


You’ve still got time to figure out your plans (but also be open to surprises and spontaneity). Even if you can’t do everything you would like this weekend, I hope everything you do turns out great. Remember love isn’t only on one day, make sure you share love always.

My Issue with St. Valentine’s Day

Yes, I know Valentine’s Day is this Thursday, but I felt this blog post needed to be written before that day. I hope everyone gets a chance to read this. Maybe this will make you rethink about the holiday.

When I was younger, St. Valentine’s Day was great, mostly. I remember having a little box to receive Valentines from my class. Sometimes I would get candy, which was nice as well, unless it was chocolate. I’m lactose intolerant. Lately I’ve noticed my reaction to lactose isn’t as bad as it once was. So now I can have a piece of milk chocolate and I’m all right. I just have to limit it. For a long time, I couldn’t have milk chocolate because it make me sick. So during holidays that included chocolates like Halloween and Valentine’s Day, I would have to separate my candy and give away any chocolate. Suddenly my stash of candy looked smaller, which would make me sad a bit, but then I realized at least I had a bit of candy that I could have. By the way, if you get chocolate for Valentine’s Day, make sure it’s Fair-Trade.

As time as gone on, I’ve tried my best to send Valentines to friends of mine, with candy or without, even if I didn’t receive anything back. I just liked the idea of my friends receiving a little valentine that reminded them that they are loved. Now it’s much harder for me to do that, especially since I don’t have money to buy Valentines, but sometimes I’ve created my own. It just takes more time. I’ve been busy lately so I haven’t had the time.

Though that’s not my main issue about Valentine’s Day, it’s the fact that from the beginning of February (sometimes earlier) till Valentine’s Day. I’m reminded, almost everywhere, about the day that seems all about couples. I know it’s suppose to be about all kinds of love, and I try to remind myself and others about that. We’ve also forgotten that this holiday was created because a saint who sacrificed his life for love. He is a reminder about the greatest love of all. “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13)

Though it’s difficult for those who are single. It’s not all about the flowers, candy, and the stuffed animals… but they are nice. Those who are single, just want to have a partner that they love to be with on that special day, but they sadly don’t. Some will go out and try to enjoy the time as a single person, and try to celebrate Single Awareness Day. Others will stay and watch a movie, or hang out with other single friends. Or they will have a lot of things to do that day because it’s a Thursday, and not have much time.

I have a group of friends who are in relationships, and a few friends who are single. I really wanted to make this year different and have fun with my single friends. Though it will be kind of hard since the day lands on a Thursday. Some of my friends who aren’t single, remind me that I should be happy that I don’t have to deal with the drama of being in a relationship, but I don’t want to hear that any more. They have gotten a chance at something that others haven’t. Even though I’ve dated, I’ve never been in a romantic relationship. Just like a lot of singles out there, we want a chance to be in a relationship, and hopefully some day one that will be the forever kind. One of my friends last year, who had recently gotten into a relationship, knew I wasn’t really happy about Valentine’s Day. Tabitha noticed that people were selling stuffed animals on a table at the local university campus on Valentine’s Day. One of the stuffed animals was a panda bear. She knew that my little cousin and I liked pandas. So she bought a panda bear, and came by my house to drop it off that day. During the day, I was feeling a bit depressed, and when she came over, it was like a bright ray of sunshine had broken through the gray clouds. Receiving that panda bear was the best Valentine’s Day gift ever.

It still doesn’t make sense why Valentine’s Day still bothers me. Especially since I love writing about romance into my stories. I understand the value of what romance, or any kind of love, can add to a story. We all need love. Even The Beatles would agree with me. In all kinds of stories, love is interwoven. Sometimes it is noticeable, and other times it’s a bit harder to find. It’s there. Even the absence of love, can be a large factor into the story as well. We write about love to share our experiences, but also because we continue to desire to experience different kinds of love. When we read, and write, we’re experiencing a life unlike our own. It gives us a chance to explore, and experience about life. Love is so much a part of our lives, that it just makes sense it would show up in our stories.

I’ve always been a romantic. I try to believe that true love really does exist, even in a world filled with heartache. Though it might just be because I’ve had so many great examples in my life that marriages can work, and last. I can see it in real life and on the page. I don’t want to lose faith that I will find a man who will love me here on earth that can be my companion, friend, lover, partner, and supporter. I don’t want anyone else to lose faith either, because if we do than we may never find it. Some day isn’t today, but hopefully it will come soon.

I want to be happy about those who do have that kind of love. I truly do. I just have to remind myself that I’m loved, that’s what matters really. That way I can be a reminder for others that day as well. To everyone, let this Valentine’s Day be a reminder that you’re the spark that can become a flame. Make sure you show all those who you care about that you love them, it doesn’t have to be a Valentine exactly. Just your own way of telling them how you feel. You could even write them a short story, or even a poem! Also let others, who you may not really know, that they are just as important and show them kindness. For writers, make some time to write about love that day to remind yourself that love is important in a story, and in real life. If you have single friends, remind them that they are loved and make sure that they receive a ray of sunshine during a gray cloudy day. Remind them all to “Pay It Forward.” You never know, you might change someone’s life forever with one little act of kindness, and that can spread farther than your corner of the world.

Don’t let the love end on Valentine’s Day, keep sharing the love always.


Live Out Your Imagination

“Indulge your imagination in every possible flight…” – Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice.

There is three things I like to imagine… besides traveling to Greece, having adventures in the UK, and imagining myself in my favorite stories.

Now which three things may I be referring to? Well, I’ll give you a hint. It’s several things that I would like to accomplish in my life.

Have you ever had a “Bucket List”? You know, things that you would really want to do in your life before you pass away. I know it can sound a bit depressing, but I think it’s a great way to make sure you take every moment for granted. As much as bungee jumping is thrilling, it’s not all about dangerous thrills. It can be just things that you haven’t done yet, but you’ve wondered about doing. For example, the National Novel Writing Month. I took the challenge to write a novel and though I didn’t finish in time, I was able to write more than I could ever imagine. (more…)

Why are endings really difficult?

315_00020This question came to mind yesterday.

If you didn’t know already, yesterday night was when the last episode of one of my favorite TV shows, Fringe, aired.

There are different kinds of endings, but they all result in the same thing the close of a story. When a story is really good, we don’t want it to end.

Though is there a true ending? The story can live on through the author’s mind even though the story ended for the reader on the last page. We as people live on through those who love us.

It has been said that, “Life is like a novel with the end ripped out.” We don’t know how the ending will be like, and we don’t get any sneak peeks. It also means that we don’t truly end when we pass away. No matter who we are, what we’ve done in our lives, we pass on something of ourselves every day of our lives.

When an ending in any kind of story (such as a movie, tv show or book), turns out to be really happy. Some say it’s not realistic. If the ending turns out, unlike you expected, it could be a good thing or not, but it determines on the person. If the ending, doesn’t wrap up lose ends of the story, we’re left wondering and uncomplete. Then the really good ending, things are wrapped up nicely, it’s not all perfect, but there is still a bit of hope. That’s when you wish the story didn’t end, especially when the story becomes a part of you. (more…)